11 Tips: How to Identify or Spot a Bot on Dating Sites?

11 Ways: How to Identify or Spot a Bot on Dating Sites?
11 Tips: How to Identify or Spot a Bot on Dating Sites?

How to Identify or Spot a Bot on Dating Sites?

By registering on an application or on a dating site, you prepare in advance for the worst – few likes, many perverts, mercantile young ladies, scammers, and fakes. You are afraid that you will come across as not very decent and honest people. What if … you don’t even come across people?

The dating platforms are crawling with bots, scammers, and fake profiles. Why would anyone spend so much time and effort creating a program that will communicate with gullible users? Then, in order to properly “promote” these same users.

“I need your clothes. And a motorcycle ”- so you imagine a meeting with a bot? Not at all. Bots are not that straightforward. And they don’t need your clothes.

They need your money. so How to spot bots, scammers, and fake profiles on online dating sites?


Bots or chatbots are special-purpose computer programs. They must send outgoing messages and respond promptly to incoming messages. They are found on many sites and they often perform very useful functions. But now we are talking about more “mercantile” bots.

Less advanced bots have very poor communication skills. They answer clumsily and sometimes out of place. More advanced bots are capable of maintaining correspondence – they snatch words from your message and look for the best answer.

As we have already said, there are “good” bots on many large sites – they help users find the information they need, leave a request, etc. Bad bots operate on dating sites, extorting money and personal information from you.

Sometimes they ask questionable questions directly. But some bots act more gracefully – they throw links of questionable content.


Consider the signs by which you can tell that your attractive conversation partner is actually not flesh and blood, but clever code. or How to identify or spot a Bot on Dating Sites? How to detect you are talking to a bot in a dating app?

What’s what at all?

Did he or she answer you, but the message does not make any sense, as if the interlocutor did not read your question at all? Suspicious. Of course, there are negligent interlocutors among living people. But if the answers are too often out of place, there is a great risk that you are communicating with a bot. Another signal – the bot suddenly writes you something like “I want hugs”, “I am so lonely”, etc., although you were interested in his opinion about Kim Jong-un. Strangely, your friend got turned on by talking about the North Korean dictator, isn’t it?

Non-individual approach

If it seems to you that the interlocutor is answering you with general impersonal phrases, and the conversation seems to be moving according to a certain scenario, congratulations! You have a bot! Don’t be offended by its clumsiness – it just acts according to the script. He just needs to lure money out of you or force you to click on a couple of links.

Identical messages

Have you just received the same message twice? It’s either a low-level bot programmed to send certain messages or a bot that reads the same keyword in two of your different messages and thinks they deserve exactly the same response.

Financial information

Some rogue bots are programmed to send scripted messages asking for money (or other financial information) after a user shows interest in their profile. Remember: even if it is not a bot, any user who asks you for money or personal data is a scammer! Do not send them any money or share any information with them!

Links you didn’t ask for

You’ve just been dropped a suspicious link. It is not clear where it leads, but an inner voice tells you not to open this Pandora’s box. There are several options – by clicking on the link, you will inadvertently transfer personal information to the scammers, or they will try to withdraw money from you. There is also the possibility that the link leads to a porn site. We understand that some are not afraid of this, but still.

Some bots work for dating sites to help sell paid features. But there are those who are trying with all their might to take you away from the site. Where exactly? Better not to check.

Seller of the Year

If you are talking to someone and they are unnaturally promoting a product or website, it is either a bot or another type of fake account. Real people looking for real relationships usually only mention products as a natural part of the conversation (for example, when you ask them about their profession and they say they work for a certain brand).

Paid Features

And finally, we got to the bots, which are fed by the dating sites themselves. They are especially common on those platforms that require payment for each message, gift, like, etc. For the most part, these are profiles of sexy beauties. “Girls” with beautiful photos like men’s accounts, go to their pages (if there is a “Guests” function) and send messages like this: “Hello. Why do not you answer?”

How does it work on some platforms? You see a notification that you have been liked. Delighted, you decide to find out who it is, but the user’s photo is blurry, and the information is not available. If you want to see your destiny – pay.

Some bots may persistently invite you to visit other resources if it is beneficial to the administration. For example, if they have an affiliate program with another resource and they receive a percentage for each visitor.

Another goal of bots is to get you to stay on the site for a long time. As soon as you signed up, they began to shower you with likes and messages. You literally bathe in female (male) attention. Pay for a paid subscription? Well, why not! The site is excellent, and I’m on fire today!

How to understand that bots pick you up, and not real users? The same type of messages (“Hello! Shall we chat?”), The same type of photos and questionnaires. Some chatbots literally adapt to their victims – age, geolocation, and interests change.

As soon as you pay for a subscription, they stop writing messages to you. And no one spoils with likes anymore. Tumbleweed is just not enough.

Brute force

Does your interlocutor communicate with you too formally, as if you are not on a dating site, but at a dinner with the British queen? Or does he overuse emoji, slang, and more? Most likely it is a bot. They do not know how to change the course of a conversation as quickly as people, and sometimes they give themselves away.

But chatbots are evolving by leaps and bounds, so stay alert.

Okay, my sweetie? 🙂


How many of us did AutoCorrect fail at the most inopportune moment! And how many commas have we missed or planted where it is not necessary? Mistakes are normal, as we are all human.

Well, almost everything.

Bots write differently, which means their mistakes are of a different kind. Strange punctuation and white space – red alarm.

Instant response

It’s so nice when your messages are answered almost instantly! But as soon as the interlocutor hesitates with the answer, we plunge into self-digging: “He is not interested with me”, “I shouldn’t have written five messages at once, I had to wait for an answer.”

People don’t respond to messages instantly. Even if we are not busy with anything or have postponed everything for the sake of the interlocutor, we are physically unable to read the message, think it over, and come up with an answer in a second.

But bots have no problems with this.

Left in Vocabulary

Everything seemed to be going well, it seemed to you that there was mutual sympathy between you. Then all of a sudden communication stopped abruptly. There are two options – the interlocutor “merged”, not wanting to explain anything, or the bot has exhausted its entire vocabulary and went to look for a new victim.

And in either case, do not get upset – close this dialogue and move on.


Red alarm signal – you have noticed too much strange in the behavior of your interlocutor. It’s time to bot check it:

  • Ask tough questions;
  • Ask strange questions (“Can I put an elephant in my backpack?”);
  • Write “Hmm”. Bots don’t know how to react to interjections. They will try to get out: “Tell me more about it”;
  • Write a random set of letters and follow the reaction;
  • Use sarcasm.

May likes, swipes, and matches from real people come with you, it is more interesting to communicate with them than with bots!


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