I’m not going to lie to you – no marriage is all rainbows and unicorns, and it’s far from easy. What nobody tells you at the beginning is that you shouldn’t expect a fairy tale and that in your marriage you have to compromise on some things that you normally would never put up with.
However, there is one thing that you shouldn’t even dream of tolerating – namely, a disrespectful husband.
Understand that there cannot be love where there is no respect, and that you can never develop a healthy relationship with someone who does not value you as a person or who humiliates you in any way.
Yet sometimes you are the only one who doesn’t see the reality of your own marriage; the only one who doesn’t know the truth and who doesn’t see that your man isn’t treating you right.
That’s why I’m here to help you by showing you these 13 insightful signs that will prove you have a disrespectful husband.
1. He’s not being honest
One of the most important things in a marriage is absolute honesty. Your spouse should be your teammate, and there should be no place for lying in your relationship, even when the truth is bitter and harsh.
Don’t get me wrong – you both have the right to your own privacy, but if your husband is hiding something from you, no matter how small, especially if it has something to do with your marriage, it is a clear sign that he doesn’t respect you enough.
He doesn’t want to share all aspects of his life with you and he does so for a reason. This is definitely a sign of disrespect, and this is something you should be aware of.
2. He compares you to other women
A man who compares you to other women doesn’t respect you. It doesn’t matter if that woman is his ex or someone in the neighborhood – he should never make you feel like you are fighting another woman for his attention.
Your man should have eyes only for you and looking at other women and especially commenting on their appearance in front of you is never acceptable. By doing so, he will only humiliate you and make you feel guilty.
And that’s definitely not a sign of a healthy and happy relationship, but rather a sign of a disrespectful husband.
3. He’s never behind you
A good marriage is also a friendship. It’s a promise that you and your partner will support each other no matter what.
Yet your disrespectful husband never does. Whether you’re right or not, he’s never on your side.
Instead, he thinks that others are always right and that you are wrong. He thinks that you are not smart enough to deal with some complicated problems and he does not find you reliable.
If you see your husband acting like this, you should know that you have a serious problem, and that if you don’t do anything about it, things can only get worse.
4. He doesn’t care about your needs
The first thing to do when you get married is to forget about selfishness. You can’t just take care of your own needs without worrying about your partner’s wellbeing. But that’s exactly what your disrespectful husband does.
The most important thing is that he is full, dressed and satisfied. And you? Well, he doesn’t even ask if you are fine or too tired to prepare dinner after a busy day at work.
He only thinks about himself and his needs and doesn’t feel bad when you aren’t feeling good. Your relationship is no longer what it used to be and you shouldn’t tolerate such behavior.
5. He is never ready to compromise
If you feel that your husband is making all the important decisions in your marriage alone and that he doesn’t ask for your opinion, you should know that something is wrong with your relationship.
If he does everything his way over and over again, no matter what you have to say, it means he doesn’t respect you. And you should definitely do something about it because you don’t deserve such behavior. No woman does that.
6. He doesn’t listen to you
If your husband doesn’t listen to what you have to say, even if you tell him something very important, it means he doesn’t respect you. He just wants you to stop talking because he thinks you’re bored.
When a couple gets into this phase, it is important to find a solution to the problem, as this is not a healthy relationship.
7. You are not his priority
If your man cuts you out of his life and he spends more time with his friends, it means he has no respect for you. He enjoys spending more time with other people than you, and you cannot develop a deeper relationship with him.
And when the two of you spend some time together, you always argue, which is also a sign of disrespect.
8. He criticizes you
If you catch your man criticizing you for how you look or for adding a few extra pounds, it is a sign that you have a disrespectful man.
If you don’t see a smile on his face when he says something like this, and if he doesn’t kiss you afterward, it is a sign that he did it on purpose. He wants you to feel bad, and he’s not ashamed to show you this openly.
9. He never wants to help you
Whether you’re just doing chores or working on a complicated project for work, your partner won’t be there to help you.
I’m not saying that he must have expertise in the field you work in, but he can help you by making you a cup of coffee or tea when you feel like you are tired and tired.
If your man doesn’t want that and lets you do all the difficult things on your own, it means that he doesn’t respect you enough. And such a man will never make you happy and satisfied.
10. He’s trying to change you
Respect is almost always associated with acceptance. When someone respects you, they respect and accept who you are, with all your flaws and imperfections, without trying to change you.
Don’t get me wrong – it’s a great thing when you have a partner who inspires you to get better, but that doesn’t mean they have the right to change the essence of who you are.
But that’s exactly what your man does. He wants you to conform to his imaginary standards, and he does everything in his power to model you the way he wants, without taking your personality or individuality into account.
If this is the case in your marriage, then it is abundantly clear that you are dealing with a disrespectful husband who tries to control all aspects of your life and personality.
11. He doesn’t care if you feel like having sǝx
Think about one thing – even when you’re in a relationship or marriage, sǝx must always be consensual. You are allowed to have personal boundaries that nobody can or should cross.
This means that you have the right not to feel like having sǝx of any kind if you don’t feel like it. And that means your partner has to respect that at all times.
Yet your disrespectful husband does anything but that. Instead, he urges you to have sǝx with him, even if you make it clear to him that you are not in the mood for sǝx.
And when the two of you sleep together, this man only cares for his own needs – he never goes out of his way to please you, and he often just treats you like a sǝxual object.
12. He’s pretending he’s better than you
When you and your husband have children, you often feel like one of the children rather than an equal partner in your marriage. All your man does is boss you around yelling at you all the time and pretending you are subordinate to him in every way.
This man rarely treats you like a partner. He questions every decision you make and, as a result, makes you question your own judgment.
It is more than obvious that he thinks himself smarter and more capable. At the same time, you are useless for anything and your opinion should not be taken into account.
Even if he doesn’t tell you this directly, it’s more than obvious that he doesn’t value you or give you the place you deserve in this marriage.
13. He treats you like his maid
When you think about it, you can’t remember the last time your husband helped around the house. Even if he does something, like tidying up the table behind him, he won’t do it until you ask him to.
Also, he’ll pretend he’s helping you by doing a simple task as if he doesn’t live in this household. This man obviously sees cooking and cleaning as a woman’s job and is not thinking of lifting a finger to make it at least a little easier for you.
What you need to realize is that you are not this guy’s maid, slave, or cook, nor are you your children’s full-time nanny.
This is your life, not your job, and you cannot be expected to work around the clock while he shows no interest in sharing the chores.