Everything ends sooner or later, and love is no exception. Sometimes this ending comes down to “and they lived happily ever after and died on the same day”, but more often it is not so. Feelings fade away, numerous misunderstandings and conflicts accumulate, shortcomings become unbearable and at some point the inevitable end comes. In this article, we have collected the first wake-up calls that will let you know that something has gone wrong in your relationship.
This article will be most useful for men, but women will also have something to think about. And if at least someone she helps to revive and maintain the outgoing relationship, then it was not in vain. Go!
Your sex has become insipid and mechanical
Intimate life is the litmus test of your relationship. Of course, the daily sex marathons, characteristic of their beginning, sooner or later stop, but the mutual feeling of joy from possessing each other, passion and desire in loving people does not disappear. If your sex has become a purely mechanical and emotionless action, this is a sure sign of the fading of feelings. If you are bored with each other even in bed, there is no need to talk about ordinary life.
… or disappeared altogether
But much worse if your intimate relationship has sunk into oblivion. You made love less and less, and eventually you just stop doing it. And if your desire has not disappeared, and the absence of an intimate relationship occurs only at her initiative, only one disappointing conclusion suggests itself: her feelings for you come to an end. Or has already arrived.
Why is there sex, you don’t even hold hands!
Physical contact in everyday life is a sign of trust and love. A loved one always wants to take by the hand, hug, touch. And if such moments are rapidly disappearing from your daily communication, then everything has gone awry. Noticing that any initiative in terms of touch comes only from you, draw conclusions: you are playing love with one goal.
Conflict has been replaced by indifference
Not everyone manages to live soul to soul, conflicts happen even in the most calm and balanced couples, but overcoming them only strengthens the relationship. So if the quarrels between you end in smashing dishes and subsequent violent sex among the fragments, it’s too early to talk about the decline of love, unless it’s worth thinking about anger management. But as soon as conflicts, quarrels and scandals are replaced by cold indifference, this is a sure sign of the end.
However, even if you are not one of those who quarreled about and without, you will feel the appearance of indifference in a relationship. The question “how was your day?” disappears from your vocabulary, communication is reduced to a minimum, without even saying hello, you immerse yourself in your favorite TV shows, games and other hobbies. When you are no longer interested in your partner, it is easy to understand and feel. But along with the realization of this fact comes the sad understanding that love has long left the two of you.
You don’t look into each other’s eyes
Eye contact is an essential part of a love relationship. Even cheap seduction courses will tell you how important it is to keep it. “It’s so good that it’s impossible to take your eyes off” – we are talking about a beautiful and attractive girl, couples in love sometimes look into each other’s eyes for hours, forgetting about everything around. But if every attempt to look into the eyes ends with the fact that your passion looks away, it’s time to draw disappointing conclusions. A person who is not able to withstand your gaze already considers you a stranger.
What should I do if I notice this in our relationship?
Any of these signs may turn out to be erroneous, but if several or even all of them appear at once in your relationship, most likely, your couple’s feelings for you have come to a standstill. But before you make hasty decisions, stop and think about how honest you are with yourself? Perhaps this relationship has not been pleasing to you for a long time, everything that happened between you now seems to be a mistake, and it remains only to find a nominal reason to break it off? If so, then now you can still part without insulting each other and without turning into enemies.
Many ex-lovers maintain friendly relations and continue to communicate, and having parted now, it is quite possible that you will become such friends.
If you feel like the victim, buckle up. Everything indicates that your feelings are in the past, and the chances of returning your former love tend to zero. The end seems inevitable, but the only thing you can do in this situation is to talk and dot everything right now, without postponing the inevitable. You should not humiliate yourself and ask for the last chance, if this chance really exists, she herself will tell everything. But be prepared to accept the inevitable and prepare for the end.
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