One interesting article was published in the scientific journal “Social Psychology and the Science of Personality”. It talked about a study that scientists conducted in order to find out how many times a week happy couples have sex.
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And the results were shocking. It turned out that those who are really happy in marriage or relationships have sex only once a week. Those that are less frequent are less satisfied with their lives, and those that are every day have many problems. Let’s talk in more detail.
Study of people of different age groups
The Kinsey Institute conducted research for 40 years, and during this time, scientists managed to study 30,000 pairs. As it turned out, happy couples who are completely satisfied with their spouse and life have sex only once a week. But this is an average, and it may vary depending on age:
- couples aged 18 to 29 have sex more often, about twice a week. And they are happy, they do not need more.
- From the age of 30, sex becomes more rare, and is approximately 1-1.6 times a week.
- After 40 years, love joys attract less and less, and reach up to once every two weeks.
Young couples are just starting to get to know each other, trying to get enough of love, their passion boils, which encourages them to have sex more often. Older people have already “ate” each other to their fill, and now they just feel good together, they are engaged in a common life, share hobbies. Yes, and the state of health with age becomes worse, more often overcomes fatigue, problems at work and with children.
It’s completely normal when a couple of years ago you loved each other at least three times a week, and today you are increasingly shirking your marital duty. You can not write off the unwillingness of a partner to have sex on the fact that he begins to cool off towards you, it may be a matter of elementary fatigue. If you are comfortable and good together, then you can be happy and with a minimum amount of sex.
Do not compare your number of intercourses with the number of friends. Everyone has their own temperament, some need daily intimacy, others are enough once a month.
Scientists have also found that couples who make love every day are simply not satisfied with the relationship or life in general. On a subconscious level, they try to close the “holes” with sex, in other cases they become simply bored with each other. And the only thing that keeps them together is sex.
Why are couples with less sex happier?
Always in touch
Despite being busy, busy working day, happy couples do not forget about each other. They want to be aware of what is happening with the partner at the moment, show interest. A telephone conversation in the middle of the working day, SMS correspondence – all this makes them happy.
Kissing and tactile contact
It doesn’t matter how many years you have lived together, the main thing is to maintain tactile contact. Passing by a husband or wife, just come up, hug, kiss, stroke your hand. Hold hands while walking.
Surely, everyone at least once met an elderly couple walking in the park. Look at them, there is no sex at all in their life anymore, but they are walking down the path together, holding hands. Is this not proof?
People who do not get enough sleep are tense, nothing pleases them, everything annoys them, even a loved one. Stop chasing time, let it go, give yourself a normal rest. Put aside everyday affairs, spend the day off just for yourself by turning off the alarm clock and phone. Sink all day in bed, putting interesting films or your favorite TV series to watch, read a book that you haven’t had your hands on for a long time.
Feel like taking a nap during the day? This shouldn’t be a problem. Try to sleep at least once, and you will feel that you are becoming happier.
Say how much you love
You have been together for a long time, and you are sure that he / she knows how much you love. But this must be constantly reminded.
These simple three words will kindle a spark in the soul of a loved one. Say just like that, before going to bed, listen to the words of a declaration of love in response, and a smile will appear on your faces. When you know that your loved one loves you, all problems become secondary.
Monotonous, monotonous everyday sex can kill all the desire to engage in it. If you are already on auto-pilot to satisfy your partner, then there is no need to be silent about it.
The fact is that everyday lovemaking (because it is necessary) is a routine for many, it’s like cleaning the toilet or washing the dishes. Delete the word “need” by replacing it with “want”. Have sex only at will, and not for the return of marital debt. And to start bringing new experiences, add variety: candles, a romantic dinner, role-playing games, or choose unusual places where to make love.
Don’t worry about not having enough sex. Do not compare it with real happiness, when two people without intimacy can be absolutely satisfied with each other! If without sex you do not feel happiness, then this means that the wrong person is with you.
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