Here’s What To Do When Someone Doesn’t Reply?

What To Do When Someone Doesn't Reply?
What To Do When Someone Doesn’t Reply?

What can you write if someone doesn’t answer or reply? Here’s what to do when someone doesn’t reply? 3 × 3 tips that help. Text messages are the most common type of communication today. We all use different messenger services such as WhatsApp or Signal, but also various social media such as Facebook or Instagram have their own chats.

You could say that we have absolutely no reason to call anyone. It’s easier to write a message.

Text messages also have certain advantages. You have more time to think about what to say or what to answer than with a phone call.

The disadvantage, however, is that you may not always be able to express the emotions as well as in a one-to-one conversation.

We can try an emoji, but the question remains whether our chat conversation partner will interpret the emoji correctly.

Another benefit of text messaging is that it’s a bit more casual than a phone call. If something is very important, if we need an answer quickly, we will of course call, but if it is not so urgent we will write a message.

But if we are now aware that a message is much looser, how can it be that we are so confused when someone does not reply to us back?

It can be particularly bad if we see that our message has been read but we don’t get an answer.

There are probably 1000+ reasons someone wouldn’t reply to a message and trying to make a list of them probably won’t get us very much. But what I can do for you is to give you some

Providing tips on what to do yourself if someone doesn’t text you back.

In order to help you as best we can, we are going to focus on the three most common problems. These are:

– no luck with online dating

– He doesn’t answer right away

– I think I’m being hosted.

For each of these situations, I have prepared suitable tips for you. Hopefully, they will be helpful to you.

What to write if someone doesn’t answer – No luck with online dating

What to write if someone doesn't answer - No luck with online dating
What to write if someone doesn’t answer – No luck with online dating

New technologies also offer new possibilities. Dating is no exception.

More and more people are trying to find the love of their lives through online dating. Of course, it has its advantages – you don’t have to dress up, you don’t have to spend money (okay, for some dating apps it does).

Another advantage is that instead of getting to know one or two people in one evening, you have the opportunity to create a bond with a very large number of single people.

One of the most popular dating apps is definitely Tinder.

The good thing about Tinder is that you can’t write to you until you have a match, when both of you have given each other alike, so to speak.

The bad side effect is that we then know exactly how many singles have given us alike at first sight and how many actually write us back. Often there is a big difference in this number.

These tips will tell you why this is the case and how you can change it.

1. Start with your dating profile

Yes, online dating has some advantages, but there are definitely disadvantages too. One disadvantage is that only the first impression counts and that you rarely get a chance to improve it, such as on a date.

To increase your chances of meeting someone really interesting, you should optimize your dating profile. You probably have a really cute profile picture and that’s exactly why you get so many swipes to the right.

But do you have other photos on your profile? For example, something that shows your interests or hobbies and might be a good topic to talk about?

If not, change that as soon as possible. It’s also a good idea to have more interesting profile text. You can simply describe yourself in a few words, or you can write down your life motto.

This way, you are giving out a little more information about yourself, but not giving too much away, and it will entice someone to ask you multiple questions.

2. Don’t write just to write

Swipe left, swipe right and you’ve got a match. He or she looks really cute and you want to react as quickly as possible and write something without really thinking about it.

You don’t have a particular idea so try a classic Hey there, how are you? Now, I ask you never to write How’s your first Tinder message to anyone again.

What on earth should you answer that? That’s probably the laziest first message anyone can write.

You act as if you took the first step, but actually, you didn’t have it at all, you left it to the other person. And believe me, nobody likes that.

For a little more success, try a personal question. Take your time, look at the chat partner’s dating profile, then decide on a question based on what kind of pictures you find.

3. Don’t take it too seriously

Of course, you can ask profound questions from the start, philosophize about the meaning of life, etc. instead of making small talk. Maybe this is also a good way to know right away who you get on really well with and who you don’t.

But also keep in mind that most people don’t like talking about too serious topics in a chat conversation. Imagine waiting 10 to 15 minutes for someone to write back and then receiving a meter-long message.

You can leave such topics and conversations for a later phase. In the getting to know you phase it should be a little more relaxed. Just flirt, use emojis and have fun doing it.

What to do when someone doesn’t reply or answer? – He doesn’t answer right away

What to do when someone doesn't reply or answer? - He doesn't answer right away
What to do when someone doesn’t reply or answer? – He doesn’t answer right away

Of course, you can ask profound questions from the start, philosophize about the meaning of life, etc. instead of making small talk. Maybe this is also a good way to know right away who you get on really well with and who you don’t.

But also keep in mind that most people don’t like talking about too serious topics in a chat conversation. Imagine waiting 10 to 15 minutes for someone to write back and then receiving a meter-long message.

You can leave such topics and conversations for a later phase. In the getting to know you phase it should be a little more relaxed. Just flirt, use emojis and have fun doing it.

What to write if someone doesn’t answer or reply- He doesn’t answer right away

When we first get to know someone, we have at least 1,000 questions for them. But we don’t dare to face most of them.

So instead of will, you hurt me? dear, What do you do for a living? ask. Instead of how do you act when you are angry? Do we ask What are your interests?

And of course, these questions also help us to get to know someone better, but when it comes to the first problems, unfortunately, they do not offer us too much information.

A common problem in the get-to-know phase is that one person stops writing back at once.

Everything is great, everything is wonderful, we like each other and then suddenly there is silence. Our mental cinema then plays the craziest scenarios for us and we are already sure that this whole acquaintance broke up, even though it never really started.

But it doesn’t really have to be that way, and instead of giving up on that relationship right away, you should do the next one.

1. Don’t make an elephant out of a mosquito

So, I have to be a little tough now, but the first thing I have to tell you is to pull yourself together. First, try to think about the situation with a cool head.

How long hasn’t he written you back? A quarter of an hour, half an hour or two hours?

That’s not the end of the world. Even if he never answers again, it’s still not the end of the world, but especially not when such a short time has passed.

Maybe he doesn’t have his cell phone with him, maybe he’s doing something and wants to answer you later, when he can give you his full attention, maybe he just fell asleep … Just because he didn’t answer your message after 20 seconds, that means by no means that he’s ignoring you.

2. Distract yourself

The worst thing you can do now thinks all the time about why he didn’t write back to you. What you need now is a distraction.

Anything that can help you stop thinking about him. You can meditate, you can do a workout, you can read a book, you can go hiking, you can do something with your best friend, you can watch a series on Netflix.

So really something instead of staring at your smartphone and waiting for an answer. It is best to leave your smartphone in your room and go somewhere else.

Yes, no matter where – visit your grandma, work in the garden, learn to juggle … You had a life before you met this guy. Whatever delighted you back then, now is the time to do it again.

3. Get in touch again

If you really, really can’t take it anymore, then you always have the opportunity to get in touch with him again. A second message doesn’t mean you’re clinging, don’t worry.

It just means that you want an answer. It’s okay to ask him directly why he didn’t answer you, but avoid blaming you in this case.

You can even send him a voice message. Maybe your voice will make him miss you and he will get back to you in a few seconds, apologizing for waiting so long.

There is one more thing you can try. Something from the old days – you can give him a call. 😉

I’m pretty sure that this way there will be little misunderstanding and you will get an answer to all your questions. At least on the ones you ask. You have time for others, you are only at the beginning.

What to write if someone doesn’t reply- I think I’m being ghosted

What to write if someone doesn't reply- I think I'm being ghosted
What to write if someone doesn’t reply- I think I’m being ghosted

You are in a relationship that you think is a happy one. In fact, you think it could turn into something serious.

You text him to tell him that you can’t wait to see him again. But he doesn’t write back to you.

You’re not very worried, but after a full day of no response, you find it a little strange. You write him a second message to check that everything is okay, but nothing again.

Two days go by, three days and it’s a whole week. You’ve heard of ghosting, but never in your life did you think you’d experience it for yourself.

How can anyone act like that? Why would you do that? What can you do now?

1. Don’t blame yourself (and don’t write to him!)

The first and most important thing you have to do is accept that it is really over. Please don’t try to make excuses for him.

No, he hasn’t had an accident, he’s not in the hospital, his cell phone hasn’t been stolen, he hasn’t been on an inanimate island without electricity for a week. Unfortunately, ghosting is a dating trend, or rather a break-up trend, which more and more people are adopting.

Instead of respectfully breaking up, they just choose to vanish into thin air. And believe me when I tell you that their behavior has more to do with them than with you.

You haven’t pressured him by trying to define relationship status or in any other way giving him a reason to act like that. There is no excuse for ghosting.

This man doesn’t deserve you to think of him, let alone text him (again).

2. Go through the grieving process

Just because he didn’t have the courage to break up with you in private doesn’t mean you are not allowed to grieve. It’s a breakup like any other and goes through certain phases.

Ghosting is one of the worst ways one can get abandoned. Accepting that this really happened is only the first step on your way.

You will also likely feel lovesick, heartache, and hopeless. At this moment, circle around you with your loved ones.

Spend time with your best friend. I know it’s hard now, but I promise you it will get better.

3. Go on

Just because this man is a hideous guy doesn’t mean all men are the same. Don’t allow this guy to be such a big part of your life that you toy with the idea of ​​giving up on love.

I know that you are hurt I know it’s not fair. But you have to stay strong now and move on.

You can meet interesting men everywhere. I won’t promise you that the next guy is about to be the right one.

You may have to kiss a few more frogs, but your dream prince is waiting for you somewhere out there. If you give up now, you may never get to know him. Do you really want that?

I’m pretty sure we all didn’t reply to a message at least once in a lifetime. Whether the person deserves it or not, whether we had a good reason or not, we alone know best.

But I’m also pretty sure we all know what it’s like to wait for an answer. We know how it feels when someone doesn’t write back.

Hundreds of thoughts go through our minds at this moment. Few of them are pleasant.

One moment you think you know what to do now and the next you have no idea what the right step is. Depending on the situation, it is worth trying different approaches.

At one point it is worth simply writing a second message. Another time, it’s worth changing the way you write.

And sometimes there is nothing at all to write. Sometimes you have to accept that no answer is an answer either.

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