How do I make him want me? With these 31 tricks, you are guaranteed to make him addicted to you
Wondering how you can make him want you? Or how can you make sure he misses you and wants you back at all costs?
Today you’ll find out how to get him to run after you and make sure he doesn’t leave your side anymore!
Let me guess what’s on your mind right now:
“If I write to him first, he’ll probably think I’m desperate. If I put him first, he’ll likely take me for granted. Can someone tell me what exactly men want from a woman? “
Not long ago I was pondering the same things and asking myself the same questions.
I then realized that I was always putting the men under pressure and literally “begging” for their attention, which of course was off-putting in every way and turned out to be my biggest mistake.
Unfortunately, I had to learn the hard way that you can only win a man over if you give him some space.
Men fall in love with women they definitely don’t want to lose. Men LOVE confident women who know exactly what they want and who are never satisfied with less than they deserve.
If you know what you want, he’ll want you too!
Show him that there’s only a once-in-a-lifetime woman like you and you’re guaranteed to pique his interest!
Stop worrying so much and realize that you don’t have to be perfect to fit his idea of a dream woman.
Instead of begging for respect and appreciation, you should strictly demand both. Instead of hiding your imperfections, by all means, accept them. Be a challenge – then you will pique his interest!
The secret of magnetic attraction: 21 tips on how to make him thirsty for you
1. Be easy and relaxed
Ladies, I don’t know about you guys, but I definitely don’t need a man to be happy. And do you know why? Because I’m happy with or without him.
To be easygoing means being satisfied with yourself and feeling perfect even without a man.
Once he sees this, he will consider you to be some kind of challenge. He will be ready to do everything in his power to conquer you.
Being easygoing doesn’t mean pretending that you don’t care. It means enjoying your life and doing what makes you happy.
Carefree and relaxed girls are the most interesting. It doesn’t matter if you look like a model from a fashion magazine – if he realizes that you’re under constant pressure and can’t be yourself, he won’t be interested in you.
2. Impress him with your intelligence and creativity
We all know that men tend to be more optically-oriented, but your looks aren’t the only thing that can impress them. Believe me. No man can resist a funny, charming, and creative woman.
Impress the guy with your intelligence and creativity, and he will never leave your side.
He will enjoy your every conversation (whether virtual or face to face) and will do everything in his power to make it clear to you that he is the one for you.
As I said, with an attractive appearance you can arouse his interest, but only with your personality can you really captivate him?
Counter him with strong arguments, tease him a little, be creative in every way, and you will make him thirst for you.
3. Let him entertain you
Women often forget that it is not their job to entertain their men. Of course, that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t have a little fun every now and then and make him laugh, but that you shouldn’t try too hard.
Instead, let him entertain you. Yes, let him make you laugh, and he will make sure that no man but him ever makes you laugh again (maybe I was exaggerating a bit now, but you get it).
Praise his great sense of humor for making him feel special because he can make you laugh.
Remember, men really care about it. The greatest success of any man is when a woman enjoys his company!
4. Set clear boundaries
Whether you’re trying to win your ex back or catch a new man’s interest, always remember to set clear boundaries. And what does that mean?
It means you shouldn’t be taken for granted or do anything in your power just to please him.
By setting clear boundaries, you show him that you are a strong, independent woman who will not tolerate being disrespected or treated badly in general.
If he does something that you disagree with, make sure to let him know. You mustn’t let him believe that you will always be there for him no matter what and no matter how he treats you.
In addition, you must not justify his behavior. Get them to explain and apologize for their behavior. If he doesn’t, at least you’ll know that he didn’t deserve to be with you (and he will know that, too).
5. Pay attention to your mental and physical well-being
I understand already. When you really like someone, you can’t help but think about them around the clock, focus solely on their needs, and fantasize about them when you’re not together.
However, doing so can lead to neglecting your own needs. Once you are no longer your own top priority, he will take you for granted.
Never forget to put yourself and your wellbeing first, no matter how much you like him. Take care of your physical and physical health.
Meditate, go to the gym, go for a walk, read a good book … Don’t let negative things and people drag you down. By taking care of yourself, you are investing in your own happiness.
Remember the following: No man can resist a confident woman who is comfortable in her own skin!
6. Be ambitious
Do you have any interesting hobbies? What is your greatest passion If you can’t think of an answer to this spontaneously, something must definitely change?
Think about what you enjoy in life. What makes your eyes light up What do you talk about with particular passion? This is exactly how you will tie him up.
Nothing is more impressive than an ambitious woman who is ready to take on the whole world and do anything (okay, maybe not really everything) to achieve her goals and make her dreams come true.
As the saying goes: We are what we think. Our thoughts reflect our dreams. Our dreams become actions and actions become successes.
Every man wants to conquer an ambitious, passionate, and successful woman because he knows that it takes real skill! That would answer your question about how you can arouse his interest.
7. Be mysterious
A common mistake many women make when dealing with men is that they reveal too much about themselves. By that I mean, you literally tell him everything about you, from your favorite food to your childhood.
It’s okay to tell a guy you’re into a little bit about yourself – you need to get to know each other better, right? But don’t overdo it.
If you want to keep his interest in you forever, I have only one tip for you: stay mysterious.
Tell him more about yourself bit by bit instead of serving him everything at once on a silver platter.
Don’t tell him every single detail of your life. I already know that you’d like to tell him everything right away – but if you want to get him to run after you, you mustn’t do it!
He won’t care nearly as much about the things you tell him now as he does about all the details he will learn about you in the future. Only then will you be able to really tie him up.
8. Make him feel like your protector
You probably know how there is always that one man in films who protects his loved one from her enemies and helps her to cope with all the problems of everyday life.
This is not a fairy tale scenario, but occurs both in real life and in films (although the protective role in films is usually exaggerated).
The thing is, every man wants to know that he can protect you!
Men LOVE it when you make them feel like they are taking care of you and protecting you from all sorts of evils and problems in everyday life.
Dear ones, the only thing you have to do is let him slip into his protective role. You need to make your loved one feel like your protector, even if you are perfectly able to take care of yourself.
If you let him show his strength and let him help you, he will feel powerful and useful. Over time he becomes addicted to this feeling, i.e. he becomes addicted to you.
9. Be spontaneous and unpredictable
A man recently said to me that he could never be sure what I’m going to do next. I asked him if he liked that about me and he said, “Maybe”.
We all know that “maybe” really means “yes”, so I took it as a compliment.
If you want to win a man’s heart and make him thirst for you, then you have to master the art of spontaneity and unpredictability! And why?
(I warn you, I’ll be brutally honest in the following sentences): Because men don’t like boring, ordinary women who don’t know how to joke and who take everything far too seriously.
You want to be with a woman who makes you feel alive and keep wondering what she’s up to next. You don’t need a woman who lives her life predictably in every way.
You don’t have to be reckless and uninhibited to be considered spontaneous and unpredictable. The only thing you have to do is change something about your behavior and your daily routine every now and then.
For example, don’t keep sending him the same boring messages like “What are you doing?” or “How are you?”
Be a little creative, send him a funny video or a funny selfie, ask him interesting questions that make him think.
So if you’re wondering how to conquer him via SMS, you finally have your answer!
10. Give him enough space to miss you
Don’t give him your undivided attention around the clock, don’t bombard him with hundreds of messages right after the first date, don’t ask him to spend all of his free time with you.
Instead, give him some space so he can miss you! Did you know that men are more likely to fall in love with your absence than your presence?
They need more time to deal with their feelings, and that won’t do if you’re always there. They need some space to think about how they really feel about you.
If you give him this space, he will consider you a true goddess – besides, you will make him think of you all the time! Yes, you’ve read that correctly.
Now seriously: If you want a man to miss you and think of you all the time, you have to give him some space and show him that you are neither needy nor intrusive.
Once when I was totally crazy about a man and finally gave him some space for the first time, I felt really loved and valued. Now, if I’m into a guy, I always take extra care that I don’t spend too much time with him.
11. Be confident and feel good in your own skin
When I think of self-confidence, I imagine a woman who walks proudly and upright through life and whose seductive charisma shows how much she loves herself.
When a man meets such a woman, she immediately turns his head and fascinates him with her divine, self-confident personality.
And you know what? You can be such a woman too, if you just want to!
No, you don’t need to wear high heels or mini skirts to get his attention. You can even walk around in your pajamas if you want, as long as you wear them proudly and confidently.
In nine out of ten cases, men do not even pay attention to what a woman is wearing – but they do pay attention to her charisma. My tip: Don’t worry too much about what you are wearing, but pay attention to how you are wearing it.
Also, don’t worry too much about what you are talking to him about but how you do it. You don’t always have to be right to be considered confidential. Being able to admit that you are wrong also shows enormous self-confidence.
12. Stay enthusiastic and passionate
You are probably thinking to yourself now: Enthusiastic about what? The answer is simple: stay enthusiastic about life and all the little things around you.
By staying enthusiastic, you will also stay interesting, and that is the key to getting and keeping his interest!
Do you draw, do you sing or do you like to play with your pet? Then take a picture of your drawing and show it to him or post a funny video of you and your pet.
Whatever you do is better than doing nothing. Don’t worry too much about how to get him to want you, just enjoy your life to the fullest.
Keep cultivating your passions and relationships with the people you are close to and keep doing things you enjoy because HE WILL notice.
He will notice that you are not a passive spectator, but rather actively participate in your own life – and nothing is hotter than that!
13. Understand what makes it tick
Do you even know what he wants right now? If you want to make him want you, you need to know what exactly is going on in his head.
Have you ever dealt with emotionally unreachable men? If he’s giving you mixed signals, then something is wrong and he’s not ready to commit or open up to you.
The worst thing you can do in this case is pressurized him and force him to open up to you.
You have to understand what makes him tick and to do that you have to find a way to naturally draw him into you.
If you know he has been hurt in the past, or if you are seeing typical signs of trust issues, you need to learn how to get an emotionally unreachable man to fall in love with you.
In other words, you have to give him some space. He’ll come to you when he’s ready.
He will appreciate your understanding and patience. In short, if you know how to properly communicate with him, he will thirst for you.
14. Don’t try too hard
While I’m not a relationship expert, I can assure you that it can only harm you if you try too hard (I speak from experience).
I know how much you want to make him like you, but you shouldn’t try too hard to win over him.
Otherwise, you will no longer be a challenge for him. He will think that your heart is already his and that he doesn’t need to care about you anymore.
Surprise him from time to time, compliment him, invite him out for a romantic dinner, but don’t make him think that you will do that every day. Be the first to write to him every now and then, but don’t be the only one to initiate the conversation.
Make an effort but don’t overdo it or he may lose interest. If you want to get him to want you, you have to learn to sensibly measure your affection for him and the attention and time you give him.
15. Ask him for help or assistance
I don’t know about you, but I’ve never been the kind of woman who seeks help or support from men. I was always too stubborn and thought I could do it all by myself and didn’t need any help from men.
Maybe I thought it was some kind of power game and there was no way I wanted her to win. Man, why was I wrong? I wasn’t aware of one important fact: men want to protect you.
I didn’t want to let them help me because I thought they would think I was weak. On the contrary, when you ask them for help, you are giving them the opportunity to be strong and useful in your eyes.
Men want to know that they can protect their wives and help them with certain things. If you tell a man that you have a problem, he will immediately leave everything behind to come up with a solution.
It’s in his nature to protect his wife, and the only thing you have to do if you want to make him want you is to let him slip into his superhero role. This will motivate him to keep impressing you with his skills.
16. Take the initiative every now and then
Did you know that men LOVE it when women take the initiative every now and then? I will also explain why.
Because that’s a sign of confidence and, let’s say, dominance. It also shows him that you are interested and committed to him.
Men don’t always want to be the only ones suggesting or initiating something new. If you see a woman doing nothing, just waiting for you to do everything, you will lose interest.
That is the law of the universe. So it is with dating and relationships. Okay, it’s not exactly the law of the universe, but it could be called that.
Reciprocity is essential here. If he is always the first to ask you out on a date, for a change you should surprise him by inviting him out on a date.
If he always initiates the cuddles and caresses (if you get what I’m talking about), then for a change you should show him how wild and confident you are. Trust me. He’ll be TOTALLY crazy about you.
17. Get to know his friends
I have a very helpful tip for you: If you want him to like you, you have to make his friends like you too.
Here is a small example. Suppose you are going to a party or just a casual meeting (pizza, cinema) with this guy and his friends.
After you go home, his friends will be sure to let him know what they think of you (especially if you first meet them).
If you don’t make an effort to get to know his friends better and get on with them, they will notice.
The best way to score points with your friends is to be easygoing, have fun with them, and see them as your friends too.
Once the guy hears how cool his friends think you are, he’ll get even more into you.
He will see you as a potential partner, and his friends will likely be jealous of him for having such an impressive and entertaining woman in his life.
18. Be playful
If you want to win this guy over, you have to learn to have fun with him both virtually and in person.
The best way to add fun and excitement while writing is to ENJOY writing with him.
If you are bored of your own messages and all of the conversation, then something really needs to be changed. You just have to work a little harder!
Spice up the conversation with funny emojis, GIFs, or memes, or tell them about something funny that happened to you at work. Be creative.
The aim is to get him to wait for your messages with excitement because he never knows what you will send him next.
So if you want to make him addicted to you, the main thing you need to do is create an interesting and playful atmosphere.
You don’t have to play the aloof or ignore his messages for hours. There are so many brilliant ways you can get him to run after you without playing the aloof. My favorite method: just be yourself.
19. Be grateful
Now you’re probably wondering, how can gratitude make him want me? I will explain it to you.
Suppose he did something nice for you or helped you with something. He will of course expect you to thank him and show him that you appreciate his effort and helpfulness.
This makes him feel important and makes him feel like your protector. It also serves as a motivation for him to continue doing everything in his power to help you in the future.
We often forget to show our gratitude for both small and very big things. So make sure to thank him not only for the big things, but also for all the little things he does for you.
Be grateful, because then he will want to do even more beautiful things for you. Be grateful and you will make him thirst for you. As simple as that.
20. Enjoy life
A woman who can have fun both alone and with her partner or friends is a dream come true. Any man can tell you that.
Let’s be honest. Nobody in the world likes to be with someone who doesn’t know how to have fun and enjoy the little joys in life.
If you’re wondering how you can make him want you more or want you back, I’ll tell you my recipe for success: Live your own life.
Have fun with your best friends, discover your passions, follow your heart, dance, and do everything that makes you happy (as long as it doesn’t harm you or those around you).
This is exactly how you will make him fall in love with you. He wants nothing more than to be with such an inspiring woman.
He’ll want to spend every single minute with you because you know how to enjoy life. You know how to transform every moment into a special and unforgettable memory.
21. Be yourself
We are often bombarded with feigned perfection by the media. At some point, if we pretend to be someone else, we even believe that if we pretend to be someone else, we will be happier and possibly win over the person we stand for.
But that’s not true. The only way to win someone over to you is to be yourself – an imperfect person with a unique personality.
I’m glad that in my current relationship I don’t feel like I have to pretend. My love life has always been a big problem for me, but now I can truly say that I have never been so happy.
Now that I have my confidence in check, I no longer worry about what other people will think of me.
I can finally be myself now. I can now say “I love you” to my partner whenever I want and talk to them openly and honestly without worrying too much.
The world is full of imitators – so the easiest way to stand out from the crowd is to just be yourself.
Don’t be perfect Don’t let others tell you how to be. Just be who you really are and you are guaranteed to pique his interest.
If you want to make him want you, there are 10 things you should definitely avoid doing:
1. Don’t be too nice
Do yourself a favor and don’t be one of those women who would do anything to make a guy happy. Don’t be too nice.
You can’t just silently nod your head at everything he says. Express your own opinion and don’t be afraid to disagree. This will show him that you are a confident and assertive woman.
In order to build a healthy relationship or attract someone to you, it is not enough to just be nice. You need to be able to express your thoughts and feelings correctly.
If you want to make him long for you, you need to be more flexible. You have to fall in love with yourself (if you haven’t already).
If you don’t believe me, then you can let the lyrics of a great song by Billie Eilish convince you:
“All the good girls go to hell
‘Cause even God herself has enemies
And once the water starts to rise
And heaven’s out of sight
She’ll want the devil on her team … “
Let’s put it this way: Exaggerated kindness is totally overrated – on the other hand, being yourself and interestingly expressing your individuality is totally hip.
2. Don’t be clingy or needy
“I’ve been waiting for a call or a message from you for ages, but nothing comes of it! Why do you ignore me all the time? I need you. I feel so lonely.”
If you’ve ever said any or all of the above sentences to a man, then you need to stop right away. And why? Because it literally cries out for attachment and needs.
Remember my words:
You don’t need a man to be happy, because you are already happy and he has to decide for himself whether he wants to be part of your happiness or not. You’ll be fine either way, and you’ll have fun with or without him.
Having a girlfriend in need is every man’s greatest nightmare because of the huge amount of pressure one feels in such a relationship. Nobody likes that feeling. We all want to be able to determine our own life.
Your friend can’t be happy when they feel like they have to be there for you 24/7. But if you give him some space and show him that you do NOT need him, he will be happy to be with you. That’s how it works.
3. Don’t play games
Do you think you can use some mind games to get him to want you? Thought wrong.
The only people who enjoy games like this are players. If you don’t want a guy like that in your life, it’s high time you stopped playing games.
If you want to win a great man over and develop a loving relationship, you shouldn’t play games but get him to do everything in his power to become your boyfriend.
Don’t give him mixed signals and don’t play the aloof. It’s okay to ignore it from time to time, but you mustn’t overdo it.
Instead of playing games, focus on enjoying your life as much as possible. Pursue your thirst for adventure, work hard and give your social media profiles an interesting look.
This will make him realize that you are a desirable woman and that he has to work hard to win your heart.
He will see you as some kind of challenge and want to prove to you and the whole world that he deserves to be with you. Of course, you will let him do just that. In this way, you will be playing games without actually playing games.
(I could write a few more complicated sentences like this, but it’s best to stop at this point because I don’t want to confuse you).
4. Don’t make it your top priority
This point is very closely related to the first “don’t be too nice” tip. Do not read, justify, or violate your own principles every wish.
Don’t make him your top priority because then he will wonder why this is. He will realize that there is so much exciting going on in your life that you don’t have time to give yourself up to it completely.
He will find that you value yourself more than him. Plus, he’ll know that you love yourself more than him.
My love, that’s exactly how you awaken his longing for you. Give him some space so he can show you what he’s capable of and shower you with affection.
You shouldn’t be fighting to make the relationship work alone. Demand respect and stick to your limits.
5. Don’t pretend you are someone you are not
And don’t pretend you’re someone you are not. No, he will not find you likable if you are wearing the perfect make-up, the perfect outfit, the perfect shoes, or whatever.
He won’t find you likable if you pretend to be into things that you really don’t like. Don’t be afraid to be yourself Show him how authentic and beautiful you are both inside and out.
I’ve always been pretty boyish, and I really don’t like high heels and other girl stuff at all. Even if I know a guy is into feminine girls, I’m not fooling him because I’m just not like that.
I know the right one will like me for who I am. My natural look, my weird styling, my quirks, and my imperfections won’t bother him. Quite the opposite – that’s exactly what men find attractive about us.
They don’t care whether you have make-up or not, as long as you are comfortable in your own skin. Because that is exactly what makes you really beautiful and arouses his longing for you.
6. Don’t be jealous
Do you have serious trust problems even though you are in a committed relationship? Or are you just naturally insecure? Do you have a problem with your boyfriend seeing other women (his friends or colleagues)?
Jealousy is one of the biggest “relationship killers”. Don’t be one of those women who’s about to make a big fuss when their boyfriend gets a text message from another woman.
I know someone like that and I really feel sorry for their boyfriend because she sees every single woman in his life as a threat (since her ex cheated on her). Certainly, it is only a matter of time before your boyfriend is fed up and can’t stand her behavior anymore.
If you want to make him want you, you have to work on your self-esteem and fix any underlying problems (if any). Practice self-respect and self-love.
Fall in love with yourself first – then he will fall in love with you too. Don’t let his behavior make you jealous or upset (if there is no reason to).
So far I’ve learned one thing in particular: Men hate unnecessary theater. Don’t make a fuss and everything will be fine.
7. Don’t stalk him
No matter how much you are interested in his life and want to know what he’s doing – you mustn’t stalk him under any circumstances!
Seriously, just leave it. If you do, he’ll think you’re absolutely crazy, and you definitely don’t want that, do you? Just.
This rule also applies to social media. I know exactly how tempted it is to scroll through your interesting posts and cute selfies all day – I’ve done that too (and I’m not exactly proud of it).
If you stalk him in person or on the internet all the time, what will you tell him if he asks you what you’ve been up to for the past few days?
Are you going to tell him the truth (that you fantasized about him and followed him every step of the way)?
That you know everything that is going on in his life, that you have memorized every single outfit in his photos and that you know exactly which colors go perfectly with his face and his charisma?
Of course not. And why not? Because that would be totally scary.
So instead of stalking him, you should live your own life so you can tell him something interesting the next time he asks you what you’ve been up to.
8. Don’t worry too much about every little thing he says or does
Of course, you should pay close attention to what he says and does. How else do you know if he’s into you or if something is wrong?
But don’t overdo it, or you’ll only make things worse. Pay attention to his body language, but don’t worry too much about it. Don’t worry all night long over some annoying little thing he’s done.
I can assure you that he probably isn’t even aware of this. It is well known that we women tend to complicate everything and give ourselves too much thought.
We always assume that there has to be a legitimate reason for every little thing. And if we can’t find one, we’ll invent one just to have some food for thought.
If you tell yourself something that is not true at all, you will act on your misconceptions and only confuse them more.
To stop worrying your head, here are a few clear body language signs that he is secretly into you:
– He’s always looking your way
– He suddenly pays more attention to his appearance
– He touches you “accidentally”
– His voice is changing
– His pupils dilate and he raises his eyebrows
9. Don’t write to him all the time or call him non-stop (especially if he ignores you)
Are you wondering how you can get it back in no time? Then you need to immediately stop texting and calling him all the time. Let him live his own life and give him some space to think about what he even wants.
If you’re constantly demanding his undivided attention, you’re just showing him that you’re not really enjoying your life – and that’s far from attractive.
Think about all the exciting things you could do instead of worrying about or writing to him. Don’t put your life on hold just because you like this guy.
Make him wonder what you’re doing right now. Give him some space to be curious and you will win or win him back in no time – thanks to the power of curiosity.
10. Don’t put up with everything just because you are into him
This rule applies to all women out there – whether you’re in a committed relationship, whether he’s your ex-boyfriend, or whether the two of you are in long-distance relationships.
In other words: don’t be desperate! Don’t be willing to do anything just to get their interest. If you disagree with something he does, you have to tell him.
Under no circumstances should you put up with his wrongdoing and lame excuses. You deserve something better. As soon as he realizes that he cannot manipulate you because you are not naive, he will be scared of losing you.
If he really cares about you, it will motivate him to do his best. And if not, there are tons of other men out there. I call this “the art of natural selection”.
Relax and have fun!
Don’t worry too much about his body language, his words, or how to get him interested. Just have fun.
Remember that you should enjoy dating and life in a relationship and not think too much about it.
Somebody once said to me, “97% of the things you worry about don’t end up happening.”
So don’t worry about it. Take care of your happiness and well-being and spend a lot of time with the people you love and everything else will take care of itself.