How to bring back the passion of your honeymoon to your relationship? At the beginning of falling in love, all couples experience enchanting sex. But this passion begins to subside literally after six months or a year. Even as your affection and love grows stronger, sex gradually becomes calmer and more ordinary. Such regularity may suit, but all couples dream of experiencing the same fire that burned at the beginning of the relationship. A few tricks will help change your body chemistry, and bring back the heat in the sexual world with a long-term partner.
Dopamine rules the ball
Why does the erotic fire in our bodies die out with a long relationship? The culprit, as always, are hormones. When we fall madly in love, our brain releases dopamine, a biologically active substance that activates the limbic system, the so-called center of pleasure and positive emotions.
Upon entering the blood, the action of this neurotransmitter is reflected in the behavior and psyche of people. Lovers become agitated, have less need for food and sleep, their heartbeat increases and it is difficult for them to concentrate on anything other than the object of desire, with which they seem to be obsessed.
In addition, increasing levels of dopamine stimulate the production of testosterone in men and estrogen with progesterone in women. These are hormones that increase sexual desire and sensuality, as a result of which the sex of a couple in love turns into a wild marathon.
Such an excited state cannot last too long, otherwise there will be a threat to the physical and mental health of a person. Therefore, the body regulates the level of dopamine, gradually returning it to normal, which turns the fireworks of passion into a warm comfort of affection. But it turns out that you are able to stimulate dopamine levels and experience a second honeymoon with a partner.
Get carried away with novelty
When you do something new and interesting together, you release dopamine. In one experiment, psychologists examined the mutual feelings of 28 couples. Over the course of a month, half of them completed a boring tedious task, the other 14 couples were involved in a new exciting activity for them. Couples engaged in an unusual interesting business noted that during this period their intimate life acquired more passion. Novelty is one of the most effective ways to increase dopamine levels.
Such an incentive can be found everywhere, from visiting a restaurant just around the corner to a trip to China together. Let it be a romantic weekend spent in a hotel or another city – an unusual environment often contributes to passionate sex. Any novelty experience you have can be reflected in the bedroom. The newer and more exciting your joint activity is, the more dopamine your brain will produce.
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Humor brings zest, enthusiasm, a certain surprise factor into relationships, which also leads to the production of a “pleasure molecule” by the brain. If you ask couples how they got through years of relationships, most of them will say it was a common sense of humor that helped them. Find comedy movies, shows and shows that make both of you laugh, watch them together and laugh together. Humor, like passion and novelty, increases the production of dopamine. And when the fun and laughter disappear, boredom comes into the relationship.
“Uncertainty is the essence of romance”
This saying belongs to Oscar Wilde, and he was right. A game that stimulates expectation and heralds reward is a long-standing strategy that can win love. When you get a hint of a pleasant surprise, your curiosity flares up and you get a wave of excitement in anticipation of something special. This dopamine enters the bloodstream, making you agitated and restless.
Plan “unexpected dates” regularly. Let one of you plan a daytime or evening outing, keeping your plan a secret, telling the other only your dress code and when to be ready. Such unexpected dates with conjectures and assumptions will enrich your relationship with the spirit of romance. But this is just one of the ways to create mystery, cause trepidation and provoke the release of dopamine. Make pleasant sudden gifts to each other, let’s understand that you are making an effort, appreciate your partner, and this is always flattering and causes a wave of pleasure hormone.
During orgasm, the brain releases dopamine, however, its production also occurs during skin contact during caresses, hugs, kisses. Do not forget that the fire of passion is always present in your sex, novelty is also necessary in making love. Surprise your partner, introduce a game element, try something new not only in bed, but also before sex. Make love in an unexpected place, at an unusual time, use candles, music, lingerie, sex toys, lubricants and massages.
How to keep love in a relationship is a mystery, but don’t underestimate the biochemical basis of passion. When there is “excellent chemistry” between partners, desire and unrestrained sex remain in their life together.