How to feel sorry for a man when he is sick or tired? Your man, just like you, needs support, attention and care. Who, if not a loved one, is able to give confidence in their own strengths, devalue all the mistakes and defeats, set them up for success. At work and in society, it is not customary for men to show weakness. And only at home, next to you, he can be tired and allow himself not to hide emotions.
Do not forget that it is important to feel sorry for your loved one correctly. A different strategy can lead to unpredictable consequences – a decrease in masculinity, the development of the mother-son system, the formation of all kinds of complexes, and other adverse consequences.
How to understand that a man is experiencing difficulties?
In an effort to remain strong and enduring in your eyes, a man can keep silent about the troubles that have happened, hide inner feelings from you. No, it is possible for the human body to feel it, but it is necessary to do so in person. So the word is written, it is not necessary to have specific names, but it is chronological, posthumous.
EMOTIONAL NAPRYAzhenie one way or another is reflected in daily activities, the nature of communication with others. If you Notice changes in His Behavior, It means that the very Peak that provokes a breakdown is not far off – it’s time to take certain measures.
According to the criteria for the weather:
- excessive irritability;
- apathy, the predominance of a sad mood;
- refusal of the usual leisure activities;
- thoughtfulness, distraction;
- desire to spend time alone.
All that is needed is to say that it is accurate and tactical in terms of the owner’s position. The most important thing is not to provoke, intentionally or unknowingly, even more aggression, to behave in an identical way and “sew” personal insults to the case (for example, to take revenge for the fact that once a man himself did not pay attention to your fatigue and did not behave like that as you would like and expect from him).
Top 3 mistakes you can make
Making things worse is easier than you think. And this is possible even in those cases when you want to do what is best.
- Don’t copy it
Don’t get upset with him. Having built a sad expression on your face, you will not support a man, but will only increase the negative perception of what has happened. Imagine that he returns home in a decadent state, and there he will find not a resourceful, motivating atmosphere, but one identical to the one from which he seeks salvation.
- Don’t bombard him with questions
How to support a loved one correctly?
No be offended if a man does not share his pain with you. It is not possible to heat up so that the substances that are present are not. Women’s curiosity is a terrible thing that can and should be kept under control. If you hear “It’s OK” in response, stop the EMOtional attack. No word and word:
- “I see that something happened”;
- “You are kind of evil”;
- “It is necessary to say that it is not necessary”;
- “Don’t take it out on me”;
- “I have the right to know”;
- “Do you have secrets from me?” and prochee.
A man perceives such phrases as a direct reproach in his direction, that he does not have the right to be sad, that he is obliged to make contact even when he does not want to at all.
No think, and even more so, do not show confidence that you understand his life and affairs better than Nab. Reading “useful” articles on social networks or books about success, you will not become an expert in some specific field of knowledge. A woman who appears to a man as a mentor, teacher, irritates and hurts his Ego.
Your advice may objectively be effective, but such a strategy of behavior will definitely aggravate your contributions. Acting in a different role, you change his perception of you. A woman should remain a woman in the eyes of a man, and not turn into a mommy or a coach. Believe me, sincere words of support will be much more useful than the most valuable instructions.
How to behave properly?
Any man wants to see next to him a calm, emotionally stable and mature woman who does not need to explain why she is annoying, or what is missing in a relationship with her.
If you are calm even in moments of crisis, a man will perceive this as another proof of your confidence in him and that he will definitely cope with everything. Don’t worry about panicking, and it’s going to be bad in the dark. And talk about it. Only not every hour, but with appropriate breaks.
- Don’t judge and don’t criticize, just listen
The moment when a man decides to share his pain with you will come. Do not try to bring him closer or provoke him in any way. If you want, you need to know that it’s okay, you know, and you shouldn’t.
When a man decides to make revelations, put aside your affairs and just listen to him without interrupting and without specifying the details. No word, that’s where you are. Getting up from the table with the phrase “understandable” or at the end of his monologue to give out “And today I have …” is a clear manifestation of disrespect for the problem. In addition to words of support, it is advisable to ask if you can help him with something.
- Try to distract him
Think about what brings him pleasure in life. It Could Be Some Hobby, Ritual (Such as watching a football game with a bag of chips in hand) or even a dream (About a new game console). Try to cheer him up, create comfortable and calm conditions that would help Him forget about the problem at least for a while:
- cook your favorite dish;
- arrange a romantic surprise;
- invite his friends to visit;
- Make a pleasant and useful surprise (new T-shirt for sports, spinning for fishing, car vacuum cleaner, etc.);
- arrange a general cleaning, create comfort in the house.
Important! If you see that the initiative shown did not help achieve the desired result, do not focus on this and do not try to make the man enjoy or express gratitude immediately. In this case, this does not mean that he devalues your efforts. No way in other words, the name of the ship.
- Let him choose the type of vacation
Each person has their own way of EMO-rational unloading. Some spend time aimlessly on the couch reading the newspaper. Drugs are required to do this in the company of the drugs. Do not insist on doing household chores or showing attention to yourself. Let your man choose how to spend his free time.
It is important to be tactful and attentive even in those times when everything is fine. If you are not interested in his affairs and mood, incessantly talking about your girlfriends or a new manicure from the doorway, constantly making claims, do not expect that he will be pleased to share his problems with you.