How to put an end to a relationship with a husband or lover? Has your relationship run into a wall of cold and misunderstanding? Do you plan to reschedule, no one wants, how can this be done? You’re trying to take the plunge, but something’s stopping you…
Most likely, you are fettered by the fear of the unknown, and the pain of disappointment suffocates and makes you doubt the correctness. Parting, like any significant event, should be approached with a cool head and a clear awareness and understanding of why you need it and why it happened.
Decide if you really want to end
- The first step is to understand yourself.
This is necessary so that doubts and throwing cease to visit your head. Your task is to put all thoughts on the shelves. The decision to break up should not be made on emotions. It must be balanced and thoughtful.
To do this, you need to be alone with yourself. From the list of bugs that are distributed as negligible and potential storage locations. Just prescribing and immersing in self-talk helps to calm down and take a more sensible look at reality. Perhaps you got excited in making a decision.
Think tft, gee made mistakes, because we are all not perfect, and rather gee where-met. Don’t blame yourself, just acknowledge the fact of imperfection. Understand that in future relationships it is better not to repeat such mistakes.
- Contact with partner.
Yes, of course, you have talked many times, but lately the conversations have not brought any result. However, after working with your thoughts, you will be able to more clearly explain to your partner what you want from.
You may decide to contact a psychotherapist so that he can help you figure it out or hurt you. In this case, the specialist will help you understand why it is not possible to reach mutual understanding in a couple.
If the conversation does not lead to anything again and the partner completely refuses to hear you, you should stop the conversation and focus on your life goals and desires.
How to end a relationship if it’s a mutual decision?
If you both want to break up, you should discuss all the terms of your breakup. During the conversation, try to adhere to the following rules:
- You speak calmly.
Try not to succumb to emotions. Too much has already been said to each other. If there is still an understatement, speak out, but control yourself. It is important that the conversation does not flow into another showdown.
- Choose your words carefully.
You can not humiliate or insult a person with whom you have already decided to break up. It doesn’t make any sense.
- Don’t respond to his accusations.
It is only possible to say that the partner is there. Thus, you will not let another fire of anger flare up, and you will also look dignified and decent.
- Nothing should interfere with you.
The choice of a place for a conversation should also be approached responsibly. After all, if you are pulled, the situation will only escalate and you will not be able to calmly agree.
- Thanks for the experience.
How to end a relationship? How to break up?
Gratitude, in a situation where you are angry with a person, is a rather difficult task. However, it is extremely useful therapeutically, because after good words, you begin to feel inner strength and pride.
- Agree on how you will communicate.
It is not in the bathroom, but it is not in the name of the child. If you have children, you should try to agree on how the meetings will take place and discuss legal issues.
In order to avoid misunderstandings during divorce, having children, it is better to solve material aspects in the plane of the law, so there will be no possibility of endless conflicts.
How to End a Relationship If Your Partner Doesn’t Want It?
When the person you want to break up with is not ready for such an outcome, difficulties can arise. However, you should not change your mind under pressure. Try to follow some rules:
- Recognize that there is no other way.
It is worth explaining that parting is a positive outcome for both of you, because the relationship no longer brings satisfaction. You are both worthy of a better life and a better destiny, and this is what lies ahead for you. Don’t get hung up, you need to move forward.
- Admit your mistakes.
Sometimes a person needs recognition that he is not the only one to blame for the breakup. During quarrels and scandals, it is not always possible to say this. However, in a calm environment where the decision has already been made, it is definitely worth discussing.
- Listen carefully to your partner.
Most likely, your interlocutor will want to speak out and throw out everything that is on his mind. No word, it’s not interesting. Listen carefully, but try to calmly respond to his claims. You can even agree. The main thing is not to provoke another scandal.
- Stick to your decision clearly.
It is not necessary to contact the emojim and the number of results that are given. Because by resuming a relationship, you will sooner or later return to the same point. A partner can beg, persuade, put pressure on pity. But sometimes it’s just manipulation.
It is worth thanking and in case the partner does not want to leave and is trying in every possible way to keep you. To say thank you for the lived experience is important first of all for you. Yes, and perhaps this will reduce the degree of heat of the interlocutor.
If a man continues to react aggressively …
The conversation begins to take on an aggressive tone. The man screams and threatens you. Partner is not allowed and that is not allowed to be, it is not allowed to be. In this case, it is worth trying to interrupt the conversation and leave.
A man can and after that continue to call, try to meet. In this case, it is worth finally interrupting at least some communication. Soon he will lose interest and will not attack you.
In fact, such behavior, as a rule, is not associated with a huge love for a woman, but only with an injured sense of self-esteem, which a man is not able to cope with. In this regard, you need to understand that aggressive behavior should simply be ignored and avoided.
How to find yourself after a breakup?
Any separation, even if you wanted to end the relationship yourself, is like losing a part of yourself. It takes time to get back to normal and start breathing calmly. After that, you should ask for the following:
- Throw out all the emotions that visit you. Cry, shout, grieve, live all the pain of unfulfilled happiness.
- Set a clear timeline for your suffering. Maybe you give yourself a week, maybe more. But it’s worth it for a long time to be stuck in this state.
- Surround yourself with pleasant emotions. Traveling, going to a cafe with friends, massage, walking in the evenings, reading books. Fill your free time with self-care and new experiences.
- Engage in self-knowledge and self-development.
In a relationship, unfortunately, we lose ourselves and spend all our energy trying to please our partner. It’s time to learn to build relationships with yourself. Listen to your desires, needs. Self-love is a basic need at any stage of every person’s life. No need to forget about this.