How to Turn Rejection into Resilience

There is a universal truth when you experience rejection. First, not getting a job or promotion doesn’t define who you are or ignores everything you’ve accomplished.

If you are not selected (rejected), it means that your employer or employer needs more information before they can find out if you really deserve to be there and be in the position.

It is also possible that you are simply not suitable for the position at this time.

Keep in mind that competition for jobs and promotions today is fierce, especially if you’ve been stagnant for several years. You have to impress and make a case for yourself.

How do you turn resistance into strength? Let’s find out the answer…

When you need to convince someone that you are the best candidate, make sure you cover the following basics:

  1. Include your experience, both in college to your previous experience in the office.
  2. Submit your references, especially solid ones.
  3. Explain why you feel you are the best person for the job or promotion position.

Also read: 8 work habits that make you stand out from other employees.

The more of these boxes you can check, the easier it will be for the company to understand how much you want the position.

If you are missing an item from this list, getting a job is not impossible. You just need to work harder.

You may also need to potentially give yourself more credit for your life experience that relates to the skills required for the position.

Here are some ideas that you can apply, the results for some people may be different, yes:

  • Write down your relevant skills. Think about the skills required for the position you want. Now write down and add some information about where you got each skill and what experience you should develop.
  • Create talking points for meetings, phone calls, or other interactions. A great way to get a feel for what’s going on at a company is to check social media and publications, such as annual reports, white papers, legal reviews, or medical journals. Read what’s making headlines, not just for the company but across the industry, so you can have thoughtful conversations or digital interactions that go beyond the mundane.
  • Follow-up. After your meeting, send the people you meet a handwritten thank you note. Often, people you meet will include them in your file.
  • Curate your files. When you work for a company, the HR department creates a file for you. Your annual review and other information about you goes into it. Be aware that there may be records or items in the file that you are not aware of. Keep copies of all your annual reviews so you can refer to them when you apply for promotions and other jobs outside the company.

Another universal truth about denial:

Truth #1. It’s not just about you. It could be about them. Your boss or the HR person who hired for the position may have someone in mind – and you don’t fit the picture they envisioned.

Truth #2 They may also have met three people before you who fit their idea of ​​the perfect candidate, so by the time they get to your turn, they’re done looking.

Truth #3 They just wanted to see who else was out there so they could confirm they made the right choice. They may also have quotas to meet the number of applicants they must interview before making their decision.

It’s best not to take it personally, when you don’t land the dream job it’s a real challenge for many.

However, it is very important to learn so that you can quickly move on to tackle other opportunities that may actually be a better fit for you in the long run.

Another universal truth: The issue of personal satisfaction. So you don’t get your first job or your promotion goes by.

Does that really mean you failed miserably? Of course not!

In fact, it may even be a sign that you should step back and evaluate why you even wanted that job or promotion in the first place.

More than just a better job or better paying, personal satisfaction in our professional lives is more important than ever in today’s fast-paced world.

The more satisfied we are at work, the more confident we are to feel our relationships at home, the sports we play, and the other activities we engage in.

Make sure you go for a new position with the right reasons so you can increase your satisfaction, not just your bank account.

While you’re busy turning your lemons into lemonade and creating something positive out of your refusal, remember that just because one area of ​​your life doesn’t look like your friends’ posts about how they “crushed” it at work doesn’t mean you don’t have much to work on. proud in other departments.

Different aspects of our life ebb and flow, sometimes you will have a great day at work or get a big break you have worked so hard.

Other days, your personal life will shine while your career is just a backdrop. The most important thing is that you can find joy somewhere, even when you are waiting for the tide to turn towards you.

It’s also important to be detailed about your grades. Just because things don’t always go your way doesn’t mean you’re a total failure and it comes out of your mouth.

It’s also important to make sure you see yourself through the right lens, don’t compare yourself to others and get discouraged by what others are posting on social media or saying around the water cooler in your workplace.

One day you will feel like you are on top of the world. Other days, you may feel like you’ve just won a first-class ticket to the dungeons, and you have to find a way to get back on your feet, brush your knees, and keep moving forward.


Well, now it’s clearly not what you’re supposed to be doing. Do not think about what is not your responsibility, the rest you can do activities that support your career and self-worth.

So are you really serious about turning resistance into strength? The step you take is to start cleaning up. Start by improving your self-worth, self-competence, attitude or other soft skills that you feel need to be improved.

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