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Self-confidence is defined as a feeling of confidence in one’s abilities, qualities, and judgments. Self-confidence is important to your psychological health and well-being. Having a healthy level of self-confidence can help you be successful in your personal and professional life.
What are the Benefits of Confidence?
Having good self-confidence can bring many benefits both at home, at work, and in your relationship with your partner. Here are some of the positive effects of self-confidence on your life.
- Openness to try new things . If you believe in yourself, you will be more willing to try new things. Whether you’re applying for a promotion or signing up for a cooking class, believing in yourself is key to getting yourself out there.
- Better performance . When you feel confident, you can devote your resources to the task at hand. Instead of wasting time and energy worrying that you are not good enough, you can devote your energy to your efforts. So in the end, you will perform better when you feel confident.
- Better self-defense . Believing in yourself, or believing in yourself, can increase your resilience, or ability to bounce back from any challenge or difficulty you face in life.
- Better relationship . Having healthy self-confidence can help keep your relationship happy and healthy. One reason is that self-confident people tend to set stronger boundaries, prioritizing their own needs and emotions. Having self-confidence not only affects how you feel about yourself, it also helps you understand and love others more. It also gives you the power to walk away if you don’t get what you deserve.
Fortunately, there are several things you can do to boost your confidence. Whether you lack confidence in one particular area or you struggle to feel confident about anything, these strategies can help.
Stop Comparing Yourself to Others
Whether you’re comparing how you look to your friends on Facebook or you’re comparing your salary to your friends’ earnings, that comparison is unhealthy. In fact, a 2018 study published in Personality and Individual Differences found a direct link between envy and how you feel about yourself.
Researchers have found that people who compare themselves to others experience envy. And the more jealous they are, the worse they feel about themselves. This can be a vicious circle.
Watch as you compare your wealth, possessions, skills, achievements and attributes. Thinking that other people are better or have more will erode your confidence. When you see you’re drawing comparisons, remind yourself that doing so isn’t helping. Everyone runs his own race and life is not a competition.
Here are some tips to help free yourself from the comparison trap:
- Be kind to others . When you are at your best, you may be less inclined to compare yourself to others or focus on the things you lack. Helping others (altruism), especially those less fortunate than you, can give you a great perspective on how blessed you are in life.
- Count your blessings . If you are jealous of someone else’s life, remind yourself of your own strengths and successes. Consider keeping an ongoing gratitude journal to help you focus on your own life and not on the lives of others.
- Identify and avoid frenemies . Are there certain people in your life who are constantly judging and comparing, and only highlighting your competitive advantage (and not in a good way)? It’s okay to limit contact with these people or, if possible, avoid them completely.
- Seek positive support from others . As you get rid of the negative people in your life, it’s also important to build a social circle of people who support and motivate you to be your best self, and who remind you of the good within you.
Take care of your body
It’s hard to feel good about yourself if you abuse your body. On the other hand, if you practice self-care, you know that you are doing something positive for your mind, body, and spirit, and you will naturally feel more confident.
Here are some self-care practices that are linked to higher levels of self-confidence:
- diets . Eating well has many benefits, including higher levels of self-confidence and self-esteem. When you fuel your body with the right foods, you will feel healthier, stronger, and more energetic, which can make you feel better about yourself.
- Sports . Studies consistently show physical activity boosts self-confidence. A 2016 study published in Neuropsychiatric Disease and Treatment found that regular physical activity improved participants’ body image. And when their body image improves, they feel more confident.
- Meditation . Experts say that meditation can help boost self-confidence in a number of ways. First, it helps you recognize and accept yourself. Meditation also teaches you to stop negative self-talk and disconnect from the mental chatter that is bugging your confidence.
- sleep . Lack of sleep can damage your self-esteem, while good quality sleep has been linked to positive personality traits, including optimism and self-esteem.
Compassion involves treating yourself with kindness when you make mistakes, fail, or experience setbacks. Talking harshly to yourself will not motivate you to do better. In fact, research shows it tends to have the opposite effect.
A 2009 study published in the Journal of Personality found that self-compassion contributes to more consistent self-confidence. Think, “Everyone makes mistakes sometimes,” as opposed to, “I’m so stupid. I ruined everything,” is an example of having self-compassion and can help you feel good even if your performance is not as good as you expected.
Instead of blaming yourself or calling yourself out, try talking to yourself like you would talk to a trusted friend. Spend less time, laugh at yourself, and remind yourself that no one is perfect.
Use the Power of Positive Self-talk
Using optimistic self-talk can help you cultivate compassion, embrace self-doubt, and take on new challenges. On the other hand, negative self-talk can limit your abilities and reduce your self-confidence by convincing your subconscious that you “can’t handle it” or that something is “too hard” or that you “shouldn’t try.”
The next time you start thinking that you have nothing to talk about in a meeting or that you’re too tired to exercise, remind yourself that your thoughts aren’t always accurate.
Here are some examples of how to challenge pessimistic self-talk and change your mind to a more positive way of thinking:
Instead of telling yourself “I can’t handle this,” or “This can’t be,” try reminding yourself that “You can handle this,” or “All I have to do is try.”
Instead of telling yourself “I can’t do anything right,” when you make a mistake, remind yourself “I can do better next time,” or “at least I learned something.”
Instead of saying you “hate” public speaking, use lighter words like “dislike”, and remind yourself that “everyone has strengths and weaknesses.”
Embrace Self -Doubt
Sometimes, people put off doing things — like inviting someone on a date or applying for a promotion — until they feel more confident. But sometimes, the best way to gain confidence is to do. Try doing the things your brain thinks you can’t do.
Practice dealing with some of your fears that stem from a lack of confidence. If you’re afraid you’ll embarrass yourself or feel like you’re going to make a mistake, give it a try. ?? Tell yourself this is just an experiment and see what happens.
You may learn that being a little anxious or making some mistakes isn’t as bad as you think. And each time you move forward you can gain more confidence in yourself, which will ultimately help prevent you from taking risks that will lead to big negative consequences.
Embracing a little self-doubt can actually help you perform better. A 2010 study published in Psychology of Sport and Exercise found that athletes who had self-doubt outperformed athletes who were 100% confident.
That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t prepare or train, of course. If you have a big speech coming up, practice it in front of your friends and family so you’ll gain confidence. But don’t wait until you feel 100% sure before proceeding. You may never get there.
A Word From Very Good
Everyone struggles with confidence issues at one time or another. But if your self-confidence issues are interfering with your work, social life, or education, you should consider seeking help from a mental health professional.
Sometimes, low self-esteem stems from a bigger problem, such as a traumatic event in the past. Other times, it may be a symptom of a mental health problem.
And it’s possible to have too much self-confidence. If you are too confident in your abilities, you may not take action.
Overconfidence about your ability to pass exams may keep you from studying. Or assuming that you don’t need to rehearse your presentation could cause you to be unprepared. It is important to have confidence in a healthy dose that helps you perform at your peak.
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