In one of the previous articles, we already wrote on what grounds we can conclude that you are not on your way with this girl. Now it’s the boys’ turn. In this article, we’ll look at signs that your relationship might be better off before it gets too far. If your boyfriend is just using you, don’t waste your time on him. But how to define it? Let’s try to figure it out.
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He is not interested in your life
Yes, the first sign is the same as in girls! But this is unlikely to surprise anyone. If you are indifferent to a person, what is the point of wasting time and effort on a relationship with him? If he is not interested in your opinion, he is not interested in your tastes, preferences, and desires, he does not know how your day goes, and he never asks questions, this is a reason to think. If all your boyfriend cares about is how far your tonight will go, it’s best to look elsewhere. After all, the stereotype that all men need only one thing from women is not true, even if you are “lucky” to meet one such.
He doesn’t take the initiative
Often accompanies the previous paragraph, and the point is not at all that the guy has a soft character. He will never offer plans for a joint weekend, he will never share interesting ideas, but if you take the initiative, he immediately agrees to it. Everything either looks like he doesn’t care about you, or he just has no idea what to do with you. Or the only activity that interests him begins and ends in bed. Unfortunately, you cannot build a serious relationship on this alone, and if you are counting on something more than constant meetings on your initiative, it is better to think about changing your partner.
He keeps you out of his life
He does not introduce you to friends or relatives, does not tell you anything about his hobbies and interests, you do not know anything about his childhood, favorite book and movie, the music he listens to, and he does not try to tell you all this. Of course, it could be some personal problems related to previous relationships, but it is much more likely that the guy simply does not have any plans for the future related to you. If you are just a temporary shelter for him, and there will be no continuation of the relationship, is it worth it to continue them? Without showing attempts to get closer and open up with you, he will not achieve anything good.
And yet, in this case, it makes sense not to burn bridges, but to take a pause. Perhaps, just recently, he was cruelly abandoned by an insidious traitor, and it is too hard for a guy to trust a new girl. Try to be the first to make contact and talk to him, you will surely feel the signs of mental trauma. If you feel only emptiness, think about parting.
He appears and disappears
Perhaps your boyfriend has read some nonsense from the “masters of seduction” and follows their ridiculous advice. To give himself weight in your eyes and feigned mystery, such behavior is really advised by various short-sighted “pick-up gurus”, and the very fact that he is interested in such sources does not paint him any more. But it is quite possible that he is simply unlucky with girls, so he is trying to build something unnatural out of himself in order to please you. It will not be difficult for you to calculate this problem and convince him.
Another thing is if a guy just communicates with you only when he needs it and is convenient, and the rest of the time he is somewhere out of reach. And even if you do not get in touch for days, he does not show interest in this. What can such behavior say? Most likely, you are not the only girl in his life. But even if it isn’t, think about this. What will happen if every time you need his help and support, he will be busy with something else, fishing with friends or on an important business trip? One-way relationships do not last long, and there is simply no point in continuing them.
He says outright that he’s not ready for a relationship.
The phrases “you are too good for me”, “I’m not ready for a relationship right now” or “I’m sorry, but I don’t believe in love” said by a man should not be taken as a form of flirting. In such cases, men say exactly what they think, and do not try to force you to challenge him and convince him that true love exists and he really really needs your relationship.
Not needed. And he said it directly. Don’t be under any illusions, your guy can be respected at least for being honest with you on such an important topic. And he honestly said that nothing would work out for you, not so that you rushed to convince him of the opposite. Having parted now, you are very likely to find a good friend in his face. Or at least just a friend with whom you can discuss other guys. But it is unlikely that something worthwhile will come out of your relationship.
For details on how guys approach and what they expect from a relationship with a girl, read the following article.