How girls want to get married. It seems that the female gender is born with this thought right away. She has not yet had time to shout in the delivery room, but she already sees herself in a white dress. Kindergarten nurseries are full of wives and husbands. All life is saturated with only one marriage. But is it worth tearing the fifth point on the British flag? Is it very important to have a ring on your finger and a stamp in your passport? What does a woman gain and what does she lose by changing her last name.
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I can’t bear to get married
The logical conclusion of youth and the beginning of a mature, conscious life is marriage. This suggests that the person has taken place, made his final choice of a partner and decided to continue his race.
In rainbow dreams, a happy marriage appears, in which peace and love reign: “a cat-purr, a hard-working husband … And a bunch of children in the house … Here it is happiness! There is no sweeter…” Do you still remember this song from the famous cartoon? I guess, yes. Together, everything is easier: to raise a house, to raise children, to while away old age, and in general, a person is a herd creature. Actually, the advantages of marriage, and indeed marriage, end there. And what about the dry matter?
Marriage? No thanks!
If a person lived much longer, for 50 years, then the institution of marriage would come in handy. But in the modern world, marriage or marriage only get in the way, not always, of course, but in most cases. How many desires and prospects were buried under a pile of pots and diapers?
As a rule, marriage takes place between the ages of 18 and 25. It’s time for the formation of a person as a person. But what happens if not everything is done?
Example: early marriage, 18-20 years old. As a rule, you can forget about getting an education. It is very difficult to combine family life and study. Men are most often limited to college, and the university remains for an indefinite future. And even if there is an opportunity to get a higher education, it is often not the one that was dreamed of. It is even worse for women: the appearance of children for a long time cuts off her from the possibility of obtaining an education and building a career. Of course, one can say that children are happiness, but not in this world and not at this age.
Even if a woman managed to get an education, she can hardly find her place under the sun. Children are obligated both with a schedule and with the possibility of sick leave. Employers are extremely reluctant to hire young employees with small children, which is quite justified: either they get sick, or there is no one to leave with, that is, the likelihood of a new decree. In addition, many people need experience in this activity, but they simply do not have it.
Another problem of early marriage is the realization that the wrong person is nearby. Years go by, outlook changes. Having sat out on maternity leave and stupefied from diapers, the woman goes to work and, as it were, takes a sip of amazing moisture. Naturally, a handsome man from the neighboring department appears, and then the husband becomes a cuckold. The woman is in all serious. According to statistics, the number of unfaithful wives is practically the same as that of male revelers.
Freedom and marriage are incompatible concepts. Few of the stamped can afford a hobby. Men often lose the opportunity to go fishing or go hunting. And it’s not that the wife forbids, other priorities appear. No, if this is not a hobby, but a means of family survival, then not a single wife will lie on the doorstep; In all other cases: wellcome on trampolines with a child under the armpit.
Gatherings with friends or girlfriends also fade into the background. Either “Masha is a fool, she has a bad effect on you”, then “did you drag your morons again ?!”. A very common situation. And we are talking about stag and hen parties in general under a ban. You need to work hard to get permission to “party”.
There used to be one wallet, now there are two. And it seems that according to the logic of things, there should be more money. After all, both bring a salary, but for some reason, the wallet, having become common, empties much faster, and there is absolutely nothing left for their own needs. Paradox! Yes, of course, many couples immediately agree that everyone has their own budget, and they are discounted for accommodation and large purchases. But this is only the first time. Then “Give, borrow, pay…” begins. And gradually, this decision is coming to naught. Money wanders from one hand to another and runs out very quickly.
The question arises? How is it that one had enough and even remained, but not enough for two?
So it turns out that marriage or marriage seems to be a good thing. But for some reason, in fact, it turns out that it does not hurt, and it is necessary. Up to 30 years early, not everything has been accumulated, not the entire base has been collected, and after 30 years it is too late. Because the reproductive system is also weakening, and it is hard to share what you have earned and you don’t want to, and it’s troublesome to break the usual way of life. Is marriage really necessary then? It is up to each individual to decide, and the choice is yours alone. Caesar’s Caesar’s…