“Why talk to her at all?”
Not everyone manages to part with an ex-girlfriend decorously and peacefully. Many have to go through scandals, tantrums and mutual mud-slinging. As a result, only a few manage to talk like a human being and find out what reasons led to the separation.
Meanwhile, a calm and adequate dialogue with the former can serve you well. Why did you fight so often? Which one of you was the most selfish? Was your jealousy groundless? Perhaps the problem was that you initially fall in love with girls who simply do not suit you? Or do you tend to idealize your partners?
It is difficult to find answers to these and other questions when your mind is clouded by anger and resentment. And therefore, if the former offers to talk heart to heart, do not refuse a meeting (or correspondence) and do not come up with kindergarten excuses. You have a great chance to ask her a couple of questions. You don’t even have to puzzle over what to ask her – we have prepared everything especially for you.
100 questions for an ex
- What impression did I make on you when you saw me?
- Did you like me right away?
- If you didn’t know me, how would you describe me?
- What did you like the most about our first date?
- What did you dislike the most about our first date?
- When were you and I the happiest?
- What made you happy in your relationship with me?
- What memory of me still makes you smile?
- When did our relationship falter?
- Have we discussed our problems with you enough?
- Was it easy for you to talk to me about sex?
- Which of us was the first to reconcile?
- Who took the first step in a relationship?
- Why did we break up?
- Could our separation have been prevented?
- Describe the day of our parting and your emotions.
- How long did it take you to break up with us?
- Have you forgiven me? What helped you?
- Now that we’re not dating, what do you think of me as a man?
- What kind of guy was I?
- Was I jealous of you for no reason? What was it?
- When did I hurt you the most? Why did it hurt you so much?
- What qualities of mine attracted you?
- Name my worst qualities and describe how they affected our relationship.
- We got together because we were similar?
- What made your relationship with me different from your past experiences?
- What did you learn about men after dating me?
- What have you learned from our relationship?
100 questions to ask your ex-girlfriend
- How has your relationship with me changed you?
- Have you influenced me?
- What was missing from our sex?
- How have I shown my love more often—by words, by gifts, by actions, or in some other way?
- How many times have you thought about breaking up with me?
- How often have you thought about cheating?
- Have you ever suspected me of cheating? Why?
- If we were still dating, what would our relationship be like?
- What mistakes do you think you made in our relationship?
- If you could change our acquaintance or something in our relationship, would you do it?
- What are you doing differently in your new relationship?
- If your boyfriend asks you about me, how would you describe me?
- Who has done more for our relationship?
- How did your friends react to the news of our breakup?
100 questions to ask your ex-girlfriend
- What did your family say when they found out about our breakup?
- If we stayed together, what would our typical day be like in 5, 10, 20 years?
- What did you want to change about me when I was your boyfriend?
- What do you feel when you see me?
- If your friend wanted to date me, would you introduce us or talk her out of it? Why?
- What is the biggest disappointment our relationship has brought you?
- Why are you grateful to me and our relationship?
- Would you like to be friends with me? Do you like me as a person?
Both of you should be in the mood for a serious dialogue between two adults. A few more rules for good conversation after a non-happy ending:
100 questions to ask your ex-girlfriend
- You should not flatter yourself with hopes and hint to her to continue the relationship. Especially if she already has a boyfriend.
- If she is not ready for dialogue, do not pressure her. Otherwise, instead of reasoned criticism, you will hear something addressed to you that would make even port loaders’ ears redden.
- Don’t try to pretend to be friends if one of you still has feelings.
- Hello, gorgeous view, did you buy a cryochamber?
- Are there any changes in life?
- I remember you, do you remember me?
- You probably hate me?
- Do you understand the root causes of our separation?
- Are you sure your mom and girlfriends didn’t turn you against me?
- When did our discord begin?
100 questions to ask your ex-girlfriend
- How long did it take you to decide to break up?
- Are you still sure that I cheated on you?
- Have you ever thought about having a lover?
- Why did you think that I was unfaithful?
- Have you ever lied to me?
- You can trust me?
- Have I ever scared you?
- Why did I attract you?
- What annoyed you about me?
- Was I to blame for the disagreements?
- Why did you prefer to remain silent about the fact that you did not like something?
- How did mom and girlfriends react to the breakup?
100 questions to ask your ex-girlfriend
- Mom and girlfriends were privy to our problems?
- Am I, of course, a moral freak in your eyes?
- Have I somehow influenced your opinion about men in general?
- Do you think I changed a lot at the end of our relationship?
- When we broke up did you feel freer?
- Will you be jealous of my new girlfriend?
- Have you mentally strained a lot around me?
- Did I make you happy?
- What did I do wrong in our relationship??
- Did I arrange sex for you?
- Were there times when you didn’t like something in bed?
- Have you ever faked an 0rga$m with me?
- Could we start a family?
- Would you like a child from me?
- Would I be a good father?
- Are you satisfied with my financial situation?
100 questions to ask your ex-girlfriend
- Could I reach certain heights?
- Have I hurt you often?
- Are there any things you will never forget?
- What were the most disgusting moments?
- Are you going to compare me to the new guy?
- Do you understand that some of the things you did also added fuel to the fire?
- Did you blame yourself for our breakup?
- Who do you blame more for our breakup and why?
- Would you like to return everything back?
- If you could go back in time, would you start a relationship with me?
- Did you feel like you were missing something important?
- Do you have any memorabilia from me?
100 questions to ask your ex-girlfriend
- Do you think you have changed a lot in character since the breakup?
- Doesn’t it bother you that I continue to communicate with the general company?
- Do you mind if we meet periodically at general get-togethers?
PS All these heart-to-heart conversations will be useful only if you are ready to analyze your mistakes and change. Otherwise, you fervently drag your impressive psychological baggage into a new relationship.
