Fatal mistakes on the first date that lead to a breakup


It would seem that the first meeting went perfectly! Well, almost perfect. Okay, so-so, but better than then …

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If you are reading this article, then you do not give a damn about the relationship with this person. Or your wounded pride, spurred on by curiosity, is trying in vain to find the answer to the question “Why didn’t they call me back?”. Put down the bottle of wine (pail of ice cream/cigarettes/fortune teller ad) and let us sort things out.

Top reasons why your failed love hit the “ignore”:

Serious intentions

Even if your interlocutor at the beginning of the meeting mentioned that he was tired of short-term meetings and meaningless intrigues, your offer to meet his parents could pretty scare him.

The guy praised your lace dress, and you are already showing him pictures of the wedding one. If he restrained himself and did not run away from you through the back door while still on a date, then he can boast of remarkable self-control.

We have no doubt that you have a delicate taste and excellent self-organization. But it is not necessary to demonstrate it by telling a new acquaintance about how many guests you plan to invite to the celebration. Discussing the names of future children on the first date is also not worth it. At least wait until dessert arrives.

Did the men smirk contemptuously at this point? Hold your horses. In the modern world, girls have learned not to dream about a wedding and children (some skillfully pretend, but there are many real freedom-loving Amazons). And therefore, do not risk making jokes on the topic of a joint future on a first date. In addition, if it turns out that your companion dreams every night about white dresses and cakes with doves, then soon you yourself will regret your indefatigable sense of humor.

frivolous intentions

If you did not discuss in advance the short duration of your acquaintance, your counterpart may not appreciate the excessive number of below-the-belt jokes.

Light spicy hints for a first date are enough. Otherwise, either your partner will misunderstand you, and you will only get sex from him, or you will not get anything at all – if you create the image of a stupid dummy or a boastful don Juan, they simply won’t want to waste time on you.

If sexual jokes are not your forte, it is better to refuse this topic.

Important: retelling vulgar jokes by heart is not the same as having a good sense of humor.

Male share

To all the guys reading this article: pay for the girl on the first date. Our compatriots have not yet submitted to world trends, and therefore most girls expect the guy to pay on the first date for tiramisu / pizza / borscht / shawarma. Do not react to their modest attempts to pay for yourself and steadfastly take out your wallet. Try not to look like you have kidney colic. Your facial expression will betray your pain of parting with money and giblets.

On your first date, you ordered yourself a bottle of French wine, a glass of Bavarian beer and three hot ones, and then it turned out that you “forgot” your wallet? Most likely, the reason for ignoring this. Even if the wallet was forgotten absolutely sincerely, the girl is unlikely to believe it. Apologize and invite the girl to dinner. And please check your wallet before leaving the house, okay?


Girls, who told you that melancholy chewing arugula is charming? Some thoughtful men take a girl to a cafe on their first date, not only out of a sincere desire to feed her, but also dreaming of testing the theory: what a girl’s appetite for food is, and so in bed.

Might be worth a play?

Now to the guys: this theory is very controversial, but quite amusing, we agree. Do not treat her as the ultimate truth: if a girl ate three burgers in one sitting, smearing barbecue sauce on her cheeks, this does not mean that she will be beyond praise in bed. But you can check. However, do not be surprised if a week’s supply of food disappears from your refrigerator in the morning.

Silent Spy

If your partner asks you questions, then he wants to get to know you better. Or he pretends to be good, but the result is the same: the more you evade the answer, the more suspicions you arouse. The mysterious girl is, of course, cool. But don’t overplay and turn into a Rubik’s Cube.

Girls beings are even more distrustful and cautious than men. Therefore, if your companion asks you questions on a date, be sure: she has an extensive dossier on you in her head. The fewer points in it are filled, the less likely it is that you will find yourself in her bed.

A find for a spy

Remember yesterday’s date. Did the interlocutor manage to insert at least a word into your endless stream of boasting, complaints, whining and stories about yourself?

Nobody likes when a dialogue turns into a monologue, and two interlocutors into a speaker and a listener. Get rid of the habit of commenting on every line and inserting stories from the series “What’s this! Here I had…”

It’s nobody’s fault

You were good, the evening was amazing, but you didn’t match. It happens. If the failed other half avoids meetings, write and ask what’s wrong. Only without threats and accusations. “The evening was good. Did I do something wrong? If we are simply not on the way, I will understand, just ask, tell me honestly. In any case, thanks for everything. I hope for an answer. Have a good day.”

If you still don’t get a response, then just forget it and move on.

PS You should start worrying when several days have passed after the first date. Otherwise, perhaps your counterpart is just busy or sleeping off after Friday night.

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