Anger and irritation harm not only yourself, but also the people around you. How do these negative feelings arise? Is it characterized and how is it called?
Why Being Anger At Your Husband Hurts You Too?
If you’re like most people, not a day goes by that you don’t get angry at others or at yourself. Do you think this is a serious issue that needs to be addressed? Probably not. Anger, resentment, irritation, even anger are feelings that are quite legitimate.
It’s good if the anger passes as quickly as it came. Everyone gets irritated over trifles sometimes. Fury and anger, on the other hand, are much stronger. They are characterized by a high intensity of physical excitation. Two extremes define the expression of anger.
One STORona, an open variant that erupts uncontrollably into explosions of rage. The image of a wildly attacking choleric is quite typical.
At the other end of the anger scale is the repressed. However, the other emoji are not regulated as such. Passive-aggressive behavior is often the method of choice. From a psychological and neurobiological point of view, both forms are not suitable for dealing well with intense feelings of anger in the long term.
It’s not about never letting your negativity show up.
But if you can find a middle way that is socially competent and regulative, then you can deal with it in a healthy way.
How to deal with anger and irritation
- Pay attention to your thoughts and change them.
When you are angry, first identify the thoughts that cause anger, for example: “He has no right to do/say this”, “He should not be like that,” “It is unfair, forbidden, indecent, and therefore he should not do this.”
It is logical to ask the other person not to behave the way they behave. However, this is not rational. Why? Because the other can do what he wants. You cannot control his behavior.
So in the second step, correct your angry thoughts: “I don’t like what he does/says. I want him to behave differently. No, ya can’t ask for it. I hurt myself with my anger.”
The more often you correct your thoughts, the more you train to remain calm, the better it will turn out. Anger is a permanent emotion. There is no quick solution. So be patient with yourself.
When should you not be angry with a man?
- Write down as it is blaming and angry thoughts.
Writing something down often helps to let go of the situation. Get a list of papers and write down your complaints. Use swear words if you like. The paper is only for you to express your anger.
- Use a thought stop for annoying thoughts.
Stop your angry and evil thoughts by saying to yourself – even better out loud – “Stop!”. Repeat this word several times or until thoughts change. Switch to something else that requires attention, get distracted.
- No principal in that way you will react on the drugs
When a husband who is tired after work throws harsh words, his reaction has nothing to do with you personally. You’re just an extra in the disturbing movie that’s spinning around in his head. On the other hand, the name of the two storage and the path will be determined by and distributed.
There can be many reasons for another person’s behavior, for example, because they feel attacked, they are afraid of losing face, they want your attention, they have personal problems, they got a traffic ticket or they are dissatisfied with their job, and much more.
His behavior is not connected with you, but with his expectations, his experiences, his beliefs about what is good and what is bad, right and wrong, his irritation, his displeasure.
- Put yourself in the place of your husband
Put yourself in the place of another person and think about the motives of his behavior and words. Was he acting like this on purpose?
Or maybe it was just ignorance, awkwardness or frivolity? Maybe he himself is in a bad mood, angry with someone else? Is he capable of reacting differently at all because of his circumstances and his personality?
By understanding the motives behind the behavior, you may find that you are not angry.
- take a break
If possible, come out of a situation where you feel intense anger, perhaps with the comment, “Let’s talk like this.”
- Let your body relax
Say to yourself: “Nothing threatens my life. I can let go and calm down. Then I will look for solutions.”
Try a little breathing exercise to help you relax: take a deep breath with your belly. Then exhale slowly. Then hold your Breath and count from 1001 TO 1006 (One Thousand One… One Thousand Six), then inhale again, exhale and hold your breath again as you count. Repeat the exercise several times until you feel calmer and more relaxed.
- Make a good face on a bad game
You can use body language to influence how you feel—instantly! In other words, smile at your anger. You will immediately feel the tension in your body subside.
- Direct negativity towards exercise and sports
Biking, jogging, walking, running up and down stairs a few times, or cleaning the tub. It is best to do something that takes your breath away. It is distracting, relieves physical tension and clears the head again. If you often get angry, try to exercise regularly.
When a person is angry, a lot of adrenaline is released, but it is not broken down and therefore can lead to physical damage, especially heart disease, in the long run. Adrenaline is reliably reduced with regular exercise!
- Turn your demand into a wish
Anger and anger arise when you – like a dictator – demand something. They will not arise when you only desire something. Therefore, replace your demand with a wish: “I would prefer that he …” or “I wish that …”.
- Check how important it is to you
Ask yourself: is it worth it to upset me so much? What will I think about it in a year? Answers often allow anger and rage to evaporate quickly.
- Strengthen your self-esteem so as not to burn with anger and irritation
If the feeling of anger is a serious and recurring problem for you, and you want to eliminate their causes, then you need to increase your self-esteem. Anger and irritation usually arise in people when they feel deep pain and attack from others.
And why do you feel attacked? Because your self-esteem is not strong enough to withstand the perceived or real attacks of others. And why is your self-esteem weakened? Because You Make Perfectionist Demands On Yourself and Criticize Yourself For Your Mistakes And Weaknesses And Therefore You Often Get Annoyed With Yourself. You should be careful about it, you know it and you care about it, it is light.
Learn to increase your self-esteem, accept yourself more, be more tolerant and gentle towards yourself.
Also, two objects and arrangements on a woman’s house: it is bigger than it is. The less offended you are, the less you get angry.